Join Saren and April Perry, Director of Power of Moms, for a 20-minute conversation where they share simple tried-and-true ideas for making one-on-one time with each child into a regular and meaningful part of the family routine.
Here’s a sneak preview of some of the tips they share:
- Let each child take a turn staying up 15 minutes late and during this time, the child gets mom and dad’s attention all to themselves. They could choose to play a favorite game together, read a book together, research something they’re interested in via the Internet together, etc. Or if bedtime doesn’t work, you can set up 15-minute rotations during the day when kids get special individual time with a parent.
- Pick kids up from school during lunch and take them out on a special date. Tell them what you’ve noticed about them lately (all the positive things!) and let them talk about whatever they want.
- Take each child out on a special “date” every month if you can. Give them a budget ($5 works well) and let them choose what the activity will be (brainstorm a list of ideas together as a family if you want so they have a “jumping off” point for thinking about what they’d love to do with you). Examples include going for a walk or bike ride, browsing at a book store or library, going on a “photography walk” to take photos of interesting things, going out for ice cream or a smoothie, etc.
- Think about how you can make housework into great one-on-one time and teaching time as you work with a child how to make a meal, clean a floor, make a bed, fold laundry, etc. (this works especially well if you help them with a job they’ve been assigned – they’re extra happy for your company when you’re helping them do something they know is their responsibility!)
- Take advantage of opportunities for spontaneous “dates” by taking a child who seems to be needing a little extra attention with you on a necessary errand and making a point of really talking in the car and involving the child in helping you find things and make decisions at the store.
Posts offering further ideas from other great authors:
What’s the Point of Housework? (thoughts on how to make housework into a relationship-building activity)