It’s a Friday morning, 6:50 am, and I’m still asleep. With 10 minutes to spare, I leap out of bed to see if my teenage daughter is awake and getting ready to leave for school by 7:00. I find her wandering around the laundry room in her pajamas looking for something to wear. She’s going to miss her bus. As I rush to throw together a lunch for her, I notice I’ve dripped a sticky path of pineapple juice from the fridge to the counter and down the front of my freshly washed pajamas. To add insult to injury, I spill sunflower seeds onto the sticky pineapple juice.
How do you respond to the daily mini-catastrophes in your life? How much space do you give them in your mind to grow? Do you allow them to dominate your thoughts and overshadow the positive?
Like many people on social media this month leading up to Thanksgiving, I’ve been spending a little bit of time on my blog each day chronicling the things I’m grateful for. This “seasonal” activity of recording blessings comes at just the right time as I’ve already been making a concerted effort to see and focus on the good in my everyday life. Writing it down just makes it that much more real.
Whether we realize it or not, how we think affects how we feel, and how we feel affects pretty much everything else. Thankfully, we get to tell our brains what to focus on and think about. Our brains will believe whatever we tell them, so why not tell them we are blessed and awesome and that it’s marvelous to be alive! I don’t know about you, but I really want to be that grateful, positive person. Not just for the example it will set for my children, but for my own personal joy and contentment.
Gratitude, happiness, and contentment really are inseparably connected. I recently purchased a sign for my house that reads, “Gratitude turns what we have into enough.” It’s easy to think about this only in terms of money and “stuff,” but it also applies to our time, relationships, opportunities, and personal talents. In the words of Melodie Beattie:
Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, confusion into clarity…. It turns problems into gifts, failures into success, the unexpected into perfect timing, and mistakes into important events. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow.
My head: “What a terrible way to start the day! Now you’re going to be behind and in a bad mood. You might as well just throw in the towel right now.”
My unnatural, but very powerful response: “Yes, that was a bit of a rocky start, but it is Friday after all, and we’ve had a lot going on this week. I’m pretty awesome to still get up and make my daughter a healthy lunch and not yell at her for sleeping in. Running late in the morning certainly doesn’t make us bad people or failures, for crying out loud! We’ll do better next week at bedtime and morning routines. I’m just grateful my kids have healthy food to eat and good schools to go to. Now it’s time to get on with the rest of my day!”
Believe it or not, I do have other things more serious than this to worry about. What happened this morning really is a “minor irritation”, but it’s amazing how many people (like myself) allow their brains to run wild with these things and hijack their happiness as a result. And for what? Take charge of your brain, Mom! Your personal happiness depends on it.
So whether your life is chock-full of minor irritations like a child late for school and spilled pineapple juice, or you have some major issues you’re dealing with, I challenge you to use this Thanksgiving season as an opportunity to rock your “attitude of gratitude” and pump up your positive self-talk. For something as simple as a thought, you may be surprised by the results!
QUESTION: Do you let mini-catastrophes hijack your happiness?
CHALLENGE: Use these days leading up to Thanksgiving to re-train your pessimistic brain by rocking your “attitude of gratitude” and pumping up your positive self-talk.
This article orignally posted on November 15, 2013.